Tuesday, 17 December 2019 13:37

Reconciliation Day is a Misnomer Featured

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I am convinced that Reconciliation Day in our current understanding is not contributing to making South Africa a better place for all of us who live in it. 
It is a misnomer.
 
 
Go look up the words Reconciliation; Reconcile; Conciliation; Conciliate, then place them in the context of words like Forgiveness; Pardoning; Absolution; Exoneration.

Clearly the onus for the Reconciliation we are expected to celebrate on Reconciliation Day is solely placed on the aggrieved with a far much higher expectation of Forgiveness but there is very little to almost absolutely no speak of Repentance.
Something is missing.
 
 
The words which need to have as great a focus as all the above need to be Contrition; Atonement; Penitence; Remorse and a willingness to not only participate in symbolic acts but make real sacrifices in efforts towards Restitution; Penance; Expiation and Recompense.
 
 
When ALL of the above are not equally focused on, Reconciliation Day is just a symbolic farce to placate those who are not truly interested in building a South African Nation where Real Equality exists.
 
 
In our personal lives, we at times seek forgiveness from people who we have wronged, sometimes deeply so.

Can we honestly expect them to forgive us if we are not truly remorseful and contrite?
Yes often people actually do forgive us when we have wronged them, but it does not mean we can expect them to continue treating us as if we did nothing wrong. If we are not truly contrite, can we honestly say that there was reconciliation between us?
 
 
Forgiveness is a gift from one person to another whether the guilty party shows contrition or not.
Reconciliation however cannot stand on forgiveness alone.
 

It requires a lot of effort from both the aggrieved to be accommodating and the aggressor to show regret and make willing sacrifices towards recompense.
 
 
We need to change the mindset among our compatriots that this 'washing of their hands in innocence' is not helping and that seeking Real Reconciliation which Requires a Willingness to Participate in Restitution, is Not an act of vengeance or a form of punishment.
It is the stuff that Real Reconciliation is made of.